Yes, I know it's October 28th, but I have to relate back to my thoughts on 9/28 as it's fresh on my mind...
On September 28, 2009 I woke up for the first time without a father. I know that many other of you have lost fathers, and I hate all of our collective losses; I just felt like writing about it today from my perspective.
I have always been close to my parents; I could never relate to movies where the characters didn't get along with one or both of their parents. That's not to say that we didn't agree at all times, but I have always had a loving relationship with both of them. When I woke up in my old childhood bedroom on 9/28, I wasn't able to walk into their room and greet both of them like normal. I didn't hear my Dad's bellowing nose-blowing (think of a bull-moose in heat) or hear him hollering for Mom to warm his coffee. I didn't get to see his blue eyes twinkle or hear him say my name. As you could guess, I could keep going and fill pages of things I miss and even tell you how his pillow smelled that morning, but I think you can understand how I felt (and still feel to this day). Not a day passes without something reminding me of Dad--from a question that he could easily answer by giving him a call, to seeing a photo in a magazine that I would share with him, to knowing how he'd react to something silly on the TV (like a politician rambling on about a hot topic, etc). There is a hole in my life and it won't soon be filled. I loved my Dad and I'm not afraid to show/share my emotions.
I guess my message to you is to share YOUR love and emotions with those around you... ...TODAY... NOW. Why? You may be talking to them for the last time when you speak with them and not even know it. When I talked to him on Saturday the 26th, I knew he was not feeling well (he was definitely not himself) but we had a nice chat--I was telling him that I had picked up his wine to bring to Kentucky the next weekend (he would fax me an 'order' to go to Total Wines & More as their selection and prices were much better that in our home town). He was looking forward to seeing me and I got to say I loved him. If I didn't have that conversation with him I would be very sad today. Yes, I'm still sad over his death the next day, but somehow it was better to have talked to him under more or less 'normal' circumstances, versus saying goodbye to him as he lay on a bed in the ICU. He waited for my sister and I to say goodbye, and for that I am eternally grateful to him and to our loving God who allowed him to wait for us to get to the hospital and say goodbye before he took Dad home.
I love my family, I am blessed that my Mother is doing well, I am blessed to have married my wife Susie and that her family and children have accepted me into their lives freely. I know I don't always tell everyone how much I love them and how sorry I am for how often I hurt their feelings or bark orders, etc. (I'm a bit of a bull in a china shop if you didn't know me well enough) but I hope that they will read this and hear me say I LOVE YOU (I can assure you that I will be telling them that after I click on "Publish Post").
God bless you all, thanks for reading this and hug your family in person or over the phone/email, etc. today! Bo
Wednesday, October 28, 2009
Friday, October 23, 2009
It's funny, you hear all the "Web 2.0" people talk about blogging because you can increase your business, your exposure, etc. (which is technically why I started blogging) but for me it has turned into a bit of an outlet. As my last post a moment ago noted, I haven't written much in a bit and it actually 'gnaws' at me a bit. I think about things I want to express but I haven't had time to write about it. Who knows, I am most likely typing for cyberspace but even if one person reads this and is entertained, that's great! For that matter if NO ONE ever reads this, it's still great because I feel better when I express myself this way. You don't have to agree with some of my comments or viewpoints (esp. on BoKnowsEconomics, where I tend to rant on more political topics) but I hope something you read will make you think (or just smile...). God bless you and have a great weekend; I just wanted to let you know how I felt. Take care, Bo
I need to get back to posting. My last post was just before my father died (Frank Wagner, Jr. 8/28/31-9/27/9, rest in peace Dad!) and I've been slammed, playing catch-up, exhausted or just plain distracted (all of the above, depending on the day!). Keep in touch, I'll be back online soon. (I have posted on my other 2 blogs, BoKnowsVino and BoKnowsEconomics, but only as things 'hit' me. I have a lot I want to express so look for more posts moving forward :) Sometimes just ranting, but never dull, I promise! Chat with you soon; Cheers, bo